Is it possible to have a peaceful summer with your children out of school? It is entirely possible to deal with their boredom, their fighting with siblings and your overreactions and getting on each other’s nerves by reading the following tips.
First, realize that when your children are bored and fight with each other that this is an activity and is designed to get your attention! This keeps them connected to you even though it is through the use of negative attention. You can influence them to argue less by structuring things more, giving them time away from each other and by ignoring their usual bickering with each other. Children can begin to solve their own problems if you don’t take sides and stay out of their arguments.
Second, control your own emotions before you respond to your children by giving yourself time to pause and think about what is going on. If your child is yelling at you, you don’t need to respond just because they are yelling. You have a choice on how you will respond. Ask a question instead and suggest you talk about it later when everyone is calmed down. Remember that nothing good will usually come out of a conversation when all parties are upset and arguing.
Lastly, pretend you are up in the sky looking down on the situation and try to view things from another perspective. Look at how family members are reacting to one another and decide to make a change in yourself. By making a change in yourself, you can have a positive effect on other family member’s behavior, effectively improving your home environment. You have the power to influence others with the way you behave.
Keep these things in mind and your summer will go more smoothly this year!
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